It is a true dilemma of modern times – to guys today, does sex mean a relationship? Do men today feel an obligation to couple up with a woman after sleeping with her? Does the modern man feel the unspoken grasp of attachment to his partner after a hook-up? These questions race through every woman’s mind before, sometimes during, and always after sex. Read on for some inside clues on deciphering the man code of sex and their thoughts about if sex means relationship.
Modern relationships are vastly different from those in older times. A man need only accidentally see a woman in a mode of undress and he would be obligated to marry her. Attributes such as purity, virginity, and celibacy were requirements for an unmarried woman. It would be quite difficult to find an adult female today who possesses these traits. However, an advantage to this freedom ensures that a man and woman today need not enter into marriage just for the sex. It seems to hold true also, that a relationship which suffers through unsatisfying sex doesn’t last. Nowadays, that means just a breakup – not a divorce.
So, how can you tell if a guy thinks sex means relationship? Here’s a few hints to help you read between the lines. Relationship Guy wants to know things about YOU. He listens when you talk. And, if sex does occur, he relishes knowing that HE has pleased YOU and hopes for the invitation to hang around long after the sex is over. Sex Guy focuses solely on his own satisfaction and his course of action – particularly after sex. His interaction with you is geared to achieve a goal – manipulating to sleep with you. Listen to your instincts with Sex Guy.
Actually, when you meet any new guy, you should listen to your instincts. It’s a good idea to wait for sex until you have an insight into his intentions. Once you’ve crossed that line, reality becomes very difficult if you find that he is truly “Sex Guy” and you are looking for “Relationship Guy”. Give yourself time. The sheer fact that you have to decipher men’s actions confirms the fact that to the modern man, sex does not mean relationship.